What Are You Doing Right Now
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@jt1001001 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
5 Year old's kindergarten orientation was today; he starts next Wednesday (schools here in NY typically start after labor day). And what did I see in the classroom, the library, and the hallways? iMac's and Ipads. ugh
But they're such a great value...
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Sitting at my desk in pain. Going to Doctor tomorrow. I think I have a herniated disc in my upper back. I ruptured a disc in my lower back years ago when I was a prison guard and it sure does feel similar. Really not motivated to do anything other than sitting still and stare at my screen. I could have called in sick but I just don't see the point. I can be in pain at home or I can be in pain at work, just don't want them to say the word "surgery". Which is what they always want to say with my lower back.
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@penguinwrangler that sucks, hope it's nothing too serious.
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@scottalanmiller said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@penguinwrangler that sucks, hope it's nothing too serious.
I will be honest I think it is just more of the same that I have had in my lower back. Which means if I can give it time it can get better. My lower back doesn't nearly bother me like it used to. However, my body took abuse when I was a prison guard. Being 6'5" tall you tend to get called into the harry situations more. Been thrown down steps, onto the ground, etc. One of the reasons I got out of the gig. Just didn't think it was all that healthy plus the pay was crap. I really liked it though. I felt like when I did my job I could potentially have a huge impact on someone but at $27,000 a year gross, sorry I just can't afford that.
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@penguinwrangler said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
I felt like when I did my job I could potentially have a huge impact on someone but at $27,000 a year gross, sorry I just can't afford that.
$27K is definitely gross.
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Heading out to a goth / industrial club tonight.
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@penguinwrangler said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@scottalanmiller said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@penguinwrangler that sucks, hope it's nothing too serious.
I will be honest I think it is just more of the same that I have had in my lower back. Which means if I can give it time it can get better. My lower back doesn't nearly bother me like it used to. However, my body took abuse when I was a prison guard. Being 6'5" tall you tend to get called into the harry situations more. Been thrown down steps, onto the ground, etc. One of the reasons I got out of the gig. Just didn't think it was all that healthy plus the pay was crap. I really liked it though. I felt like when I did my job I could potentially have a huge impact on someone but at $27,000 a year gross, sorry I just can't afford that.
That's just sad. Paying that little, how much were the other guards bringing in from bribes? Cause frankly, that's jack **** even where I live!
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@travisdh1 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@penguinwrangler said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@scottalanmiller said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@penguinwrangler that sucks, hope it's nothing too serious.
I will be honest I think it is just more of the same that I have had in my lower back. Which means if I can give it time it can get better. My lower back doesn't nearly bother me like it used to. However, my body took abuse when I was a prison guard. Being 6'5" tall you tend to get called into the harry situations more. Been thrown down steps, onto the ground, etc. One of the reasons I got out of the gig. Just didn't think it was all that healthy plus the pay was crap. I really liked it though. I felt like when I did my job I could potentially have a huge impact on someone but at $27,000 a year gross, sorry I just can't afford that.
That's just sad. Paying that little, how much were the other guards bringing in from bribes? Cause frankly, that's jack **** even where I live!
It's not even well paid FOR A PRISONER!
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@travisdh1 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@penguinwrangler said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@scottalanmiller said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@penguinwrangler that sucks, hope it's nothing too serious.
I will be honest I think it is just more of the same that I have had in my lower back. Which means if I can give it time it can get better. My lower back doesn't nearly bother me like it used to. However, my body took abuse when I was a prison guard. Being 6'5" tall you tend to get called into the harry situations more. Been thrown down steps, onto the ground, etc. One of the reasons I got out of the gig. Just didn't think it was all that healthy plus the pay was crap. I really liked it though. I felt like when I did my job I could potentially have a huge impact on someone but at $27,000 a year gross, sorry I just can't afford that.
That's just sad. Paying that little, how much were the other guards bringing in from bribes? Cause frankly, that's jack **** even where I live!
Sorry for this rant but damn this was good to get off my chest. The kicker was I was making $27,000 a year and paying 773 a month in child support, that is 9,276.00 which means I really pulled in 17,724.00 gross but taxed like it is 27,000. So that is why I went to school for IT. I had to get a better paying job. I don't mind paying child support for my kids, they are my kids and I love them, I just wish I knew that it was being used correctly for them. Even today I can't get my ex-wife to confirm if she has health insurance on the kids so I go ahead and carry them at my work just in case something would happen to the kids. I can't be left in a lurch like that if she doesn't have health insurance on them, even though by court order she has to provide health insurance for them, I always fought to be the one to provide health insurance for them because she could never keep a job, I have always held a job with insurance since I was working full time(which has been 22 years, and I am only 41). She didn't want that because it then is deducted from the amount of child support I have to pay her. She had a job at the time when we renegotiated our arrangement and she has another child by a different man, so the court ruled in her favor because when she covered her youngest she can also cover my two children but the problem is she can't keep a damn job. Then if she goes on Medicaid, they then come after me because I have a job that can provide insurance for my kids. I then have to put my kids on my insurance and pay back Medicaid. Because of insurance, child support, damn high taxes that I have to pay the idiot state of Illinois (to which I will move from as soon as my wife's youngest child graduates from High School her divorce agreement won't allow her to move out of state) I still pull in less than 40% of my gross income into my banking account. Then my kids still come to me and ask me to buy them their school clothes and supplies because their mom won't buy them decent clothes. She will literally go to yard sales in town to find them clothes. How would you like to go to school in clothes bought from yard sales that other people in your school wore? They are in a small rural town so it would be obvious where their clothes came from. High School is hard enough without being teased about where your clothes came from. It is not like my kids wanted expensive clothing either. My daughter just asks me to take her to Walmart for "new" clothes for school. So when I say I worked my ass off to climb out of a financial hell hole I really do mean it. There were times in my life that I didn't honestly have food for myself to eat (I always made sure my kids had food when they were with me) and went to bed hungry because I literally had $0.00 in my bank account and the food I had was for the kids for the weekend. Yet no food banks would help me because I had a full-time job and I was "single", almost every agency I tried to get help from just suggested I don't pay my child support. Child support often times can get set so high that it literally forces the person to do nothing but work and it almost forces them out of the child/ children's lives. There is a divorce industry in our courts that literally thrives off of misery, it needs to be reformed.
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Was there a consideration of you having custody of your kids, showing you can care better for them, and her paying you some child support? That'd help with child care costs.
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@obsolesce You missed the part where he said "Illinois"
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@obsolesce said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
Was there a consideration of you having custody of your kids, showing you can care better for them, and her paying you some child support? That'd help with child care costs.
Past that point. I was divorced back in 2006. It was rural Missouri court, I was male, no way the court was going to take the kids from the Mom unless she was something like a drug addict with criminal issues. In most cases, family court is prejudice against the father. Much much harder for a father to get custody generally speaking. Especially in rural areas.
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@jaredbusch said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@obsolesce You missed the part where he said "Illinois"
Divorce is actually under Misery...errr...I mean Missouri law. Rural central Missouri courts.
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@penguinwrangler said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@obsolesce said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
Was there a consideration of you having custody of your kids, showing you can care better for them, and her paying you some child support? That'd help with child care costs.
Past that point. I was divorced back in 2006. It was rural Missouri court, I was male, no way the court was going to take the kids from the Mom unless she was something like a drug addict with criminal issues. In most cases, family court is prejudice against the father. Much much harder for a father to get custody generally speaking. Especially in rural areas.
There doesn't seem to be anything to do that won't negatively impact the kids, unfortunately. Good call on keeping them insured yourself. They are what really matter in the end, regardless of badly she is spending the money. Unless there's a way to get the court to track her spending habits, shrug.
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@obsolesce said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@penguinwrangler said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@obsolesce said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
Was there a consideration of you having custody of your kids, showing you can care better for them, and her paying you some child support? That'd help with child care costs.
Past that point. I was divorced back in 2006. It was rural Missouri court, I was male, no way the court was going to take the kids from the Mom unless she was something like a drug addict with criminal issues. In most cases, family court is prejudice against the father. Much much harder for a father to get custody generally speaking. Especially in rural areas.
There doesn't seem to be anything to do that won't negatively impact the kids, unfortunately. Good call on keeping them insured yourself. They are what really matter in the end, regardless of badly she is spending the money. Unless there's a way to get the court to track her spending habits, shrug.
Technically I can request an audit of how she spends the child support, but basically, they just ask her to fill out a sheet on what she spends the money on. I was told that it is pretty much just a waste of time.
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Well we have power this morning, that's a start.
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@scottalanmiller said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
Well we have power this morning, that's a start.
There is a business that I support, he is a friend of a friend. My friend and I support his business. They were without power and their CAD machines of course just cut out because he didn't have a battery backup on them, even though we suggested it. So he called my friend and was asking why we don't have battery backups because they lost hours of work worth x amount of dollars. My friend told him "well, if you remember our conversation we had about this, you said no you didn't want to do that" well now we are installing battery backups. Some people only learn the hard way.
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@penguinwrangler said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@scottalanmiller said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
Well we have power this morning, that's a start.
There is a business that I support, he is a friend of a friend. My friend and I support his business. They were without power and their CAD machines of course just cut out because he didn't have a battery backup on them, even though we suggested it. So he called my friend and was asking why we don't have battery backups because they lost hours of work worth x amount of dollars. My friend told him "well, if you remember our conversation we had about this, you said no you didn't want to do that" well now we are installing battery backups. Some people only learn the hard way.
UPS we had. Working circuits, we did not. Turns out, the AC was put on the same circuit as the servers. And it got a little too hot.
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@scottalanmiller So the electrical planning administrator has come to fix the situation?
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@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@scottalanmiller So the electrical planning administrator has come to fix the situation?
Yup, brought in the electricia
